There are times in life when you have a goal ahead of you, that takes everything that you have in you to reach; like running a race, working out in a gym due to setting goals for wight loss, or even muscle gain goals. Maybe its finishing college or some form of school that you have put off for too long. When you have these type of goals ahead of you, it most often comes with the phrase "No pain, No gain". You have to embrace that "pain" because it is getting you where you want to be. That "pain" is a mile marker for overcoming obstacles to your goal. This is a positive process.
Now, emotional pain is quite different, even though many people use the same tactics to get through or overcome their situations, oh so we think. We think that if we treat our emotional pain like the physical situations previously mentioned, that it will help us over come that problem. I have witnessed people who have been hurt emotionally or abused and used that as a source of strength to get themselves into a better life such as, finishing school for a better job and financial status. There are many instances where this scenario fits, they have taken their pain and made it their motivation to succeed; but there are layers and layers of other problems that can come with this type of motivation to acquire their accomplishments.
When we rely on our pain to drive us, we don't realize that we for one, begin to think that we are self sufficient or that we have to be; we appear to have accomplished our goals on our own. So we become what we see as self reliant.
Now, it IS good to say I don't want to be in this position any more and then do something about it. But Self reliance is the opposite of what the Word of God says that we should be. The Word says that His Grace [not our strength] is sufficient for us. [2 Corinthians 12:9] It is all we need. It will help us get through every situation. When we rely on our own strength, this leaves no room for any other source of strength, and God wants to completely BE our strength.
Also when we become self reliant in our situations, we also loose the ability to trust. We won't trust others, or if we do, we don't do it easily, because we have learned that we can only trust ourselves, not needing help from anyone else. We might get to the point where we will trust a few people, but it is generally a very few. Not too many people is ever allowed inside the life that we have built. What we do not see is that really we have built a wall, not a life.
This is a very real and in depth problem in people who have been hurt and wounded. The pain is real and it dominates everything someone in this situation will do and perceive around them. But God is greater than any of our problems and struggles in life. He can and wants to be your source of strength. He alone brings peace that surpasses all understanding. [Philippians 4:7] He is the only one who can take away the pain that we carry deep inside of us. The pain that we do not even realize, at times, that we hold on to so tightly. This pain will define everything that we do, as long as we hold on to it. But Jesus came that we may have life and have it more abundantly. [John 10:10] That means living life, free of the pain of the past, and living out your future with and through the love of Christ. Believe me when I say that the difference is like night and day. Imagine stepping outside free of a prison, but the prison is your emotions. God wants you to live free, in Him. You can live life full of joy, peace and purpose. This can only be found though Jesus Christ.
Dear Heavenly Father,
I thank You for Your love, mercy and grace that You have for everyone of us Your children. I thank You for each person that reads this, who is needing what seems to be a miracle in their life. You alone, are our source and strength. I thank You, that through You only can each person find their peace. You are our Prince of Peace. I pray that all who need you, that their spiritual eyes will be opened to Who You are and all that You want to be in their life. Bless each one of them, and may they come to know the Peace and Comfort of Your Presence.
In Jesus Name I pray,
Amen.
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Blessings to each of you reading this in Jesus Name.
